“Plus Nine Boys” Week Three: Sometimes, It’s Okay To Leave The Past Behind

Last week, I wanted 29 and 39 to end up with their ladies. This week, I wish they would just move on. But before I explain why, what happened to our boys in Episodes 5 and 6?

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I think it’s fair to say that I called this oh so wrong. I thought Baek Ji only had eyes for Dong Goo but she dropped him like a bad habit. I’m all for this because there’s no reason a 9-year-old should be in a 3-year relationship. Min Joon is cute, more talented, nicer to her, willing to spend time with her and do fun things like play a duet on the piano. He’s a shiny new toy but will it last? What’s great here is that she’s behaving realistically. At like 8 years old, we generally prefer those who treat us well instead of fantasizing that those who don’t will change. What will our spoiled brat, Dong Joo, do next to turn things around for him? Or will Min Joon screw up?

Min Goo finally got to speak to to his “destiny.” He’s a clueless little kid who thinks he can pretend to be a player. If I were his friend, I would have unfollowed him a long time ago because he constantly takes selfies and posts weird, cheesy captions on SNS. He uses Soo Ah’s day planner as collateral to get her number then starts stalking her. In his head, they are leads in a movie where he’s a confident lady killer and she’s a young, innocent lamb. But the truth is she’s a noona who’s playing him like a fiddle (in her head because all he does is stalk her and give her milk). After making fun of him with her friends, she devises a plan to make him disappear by using his “destiny” line against him. She borrows a scene from Serendipity and tells him that if they are fated, they will go into adjoining elevators at the same time and pick the same floor. It’s a 15-story building which make his chances low so his friends help him cheat by spying on her in the security room and texting him the floor number she picks.

However, unfortunately for him, fate has other plans and a janitor slows down his journey by catching his elevator on a lower floor and he misses her.

We finally learn why Se Young and Jin Goo can never be. I previously thought Se Young was exaggerating and covering up her feelings when she called him a player and a jerk but she was just being truthful. Two years ago, he’d kissed her while they were working and told her to keep their relationship a secret. She liked him and had been ecstatic about dating him only to see him kissing another woman. It turned out that he kissed tons of women and instructed them all to keep it a secret in order to date multiple women at the same time. Despicable.

She was devastated and when their eyes met when she spotted him with the other woman, he didn’t seem to care.

He ignored her and carried on like nothing happened till one day, he watched her perform a sad song at karaoke and realized that he’d fallen for her.

In present day, he chases her after she slaps him for the kiss and tries to convince her that his feelings run deep. She sarcastically asks him if he wants her to keep it a secret again and he explains that his feelings are real this time. This only incenses her further because it means that he intentionally kissed her and played with her feelings when he wasn’t sincere.

He acknowledges that he was a jerk and understands he doesn’t have the right to want a relationship with her but try as he may, he can’t suppress his feelings. He needs her to understand how desperate he must feel to risk a cherished friendship but she’s not touched – he should have kept his feelings to himself.

He’s at his wit’s end. Is she really saying that she has no feelings for him? She nods. Yes, Buster, I don’t like you. I think she’s lying but wish she wasn’t. If a guy treated me like that, I’d like to think that I’d lose all romantic interest in him and just be glad that I got out before I got in too deep.

He tries to forget her by attending a pool party with hot girls but he just can’t get over her. He ends up waiting for her at the bus stop near her house but she doesn’t get off the bus when she spots him. She also ignores all his texts. Her friends urge her to give him another chance because he’s hot, sweet and sincere but she refuses to go down that road with him.

His confession leads to a major cold shoulder from her which doesn’t thaw even after he defends her at work. They are forced to work late because their joint project failed and she ignores him every time he tries to talk to her, even placing items on their shared cubicle wall to blow her view. It all comes to a head one night when he tries to make her talk to him but she leaves in frustration and walks into the rain. He shows up like a hero and shields her with an umbrella but she’s not having it. Then he finally says the one thing he hasn’t: sorry. He apologizes for not saying it sooner even though he felt it. He doesn’t want to lose their friendship just because he wants more. Everyone sees them as two halves of a whole and he doesn’t think he can be happy without her in his life so he hopes they can salvage their friendship.

For starters, I think Young Hoon’s life is so boring that he lives vicariously through Kwang Soo’s.  I’m glad for it because Kwang Soo would sit on his ass otherwise.

I’m not sure I can fully explain why but I don’t like Da In. She’s not a completely awful person but she goes to his home knowing how uncomfortable it must make him and avoids him when he attempts to talk to her as if she’d been wronged in the past. Then we finally learned why she humiliated him and now I really don’t want them to get back together.

Theirs is the perfect example of “There are three sides to every story: his, hers and the truth.” They were a couple in love ten years ago but she increasingly got frustrated because he was often wrapped up in work and broke a lot of their dates. And he would fall asleep the few times he made them. He saw things differently as he was so busy that he often sacrificed sleep to spend time with her and he thought their dates were great because seeing her made him feel energized. She’s still annoyed by the time he was late to an introduction to her friends and showed up looking sweaty and disgusting while he remembers almost get fired because he ran from the set to meet her.

Whenever he had to break a commitment, he would apologize and she would say that it was okay. Her breaking point was when he cancelled their trip at the last moment then rushed her off the phone as soon as he apologized. She felt unappreciated and taken for granted so she wanted to speak to him about it and when they met, instead of listening to her, he grabbed her hand and dragged her to a show recording where her favorite artist was a guest performer. He’d also patted himself on the back for getting her an autographed CD. He was in his own world thinking he was “The World’s Greatest Boyfriend” not noticing the unimpressed look on her face so when he got down to propose, she had no choice but to run away because she couldn’t imagine spending the rest of her life lonely in an unbalanced relationship.

The rejection snapped him out of his fantasy but she ignored his pleas for an explanation.

I think it’s about time he revealed their past to his family so that his sister can stop begging her to set him up with her friends and her cousin wouldn’t try to hook them up.

In a somewhat related matter, Kwang Soo’s head writer quit and he doesn’t seem to understand why even though she made it very obvious that she was frustrated with him for always nixing all their ideas. Perhaps she wouldn’t have quit if he’d paid more attention to her just like he and Da In may not have broken up if he’d been more observant and had less tunnel vision. I have to say that he’s a very annoying boss because all he does is reject all their ideas without providing any guidance. Is it their fault he was demoted?

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I wish Kwang Soo would just get over it and move on. It’s been 10 years and he’s still clinging to an ex that dumped him and married someone else. I don’t think that he’s blameless but instead of telling him off all those times she was upset, she tried to be “understanding” and misled him about her feelings while letting her resentment fester. The worst part is that she got mad at him for not listening to her and after that awful humiliation, she still kept her mouth shut and never let him know how she felt. For once, I would like this to be less like a Korean drama so that her reappearance in his life would help him heal and move on. But alas, this is a pipe dream.

While I think Jin Goo is sincere and will do right by Se Young this time, I don’t really think he deserves another chance. Especially as not enough time has passed since he was the king of jerks. Maybe in ten years if they are both single, but now? Nah. And why does she still have feelings for a guy that treated her this way? Yes, I know she’s gotten close to him as a friend and probably realizes that he’s a great guy now but I think in her position, all romantic feelings I harbored would have evaporated into thin air. Not every nice guy you know is dateable.

This week, my feelings about these couples can be summed up in one sentence: “Life is a long journey and sometimes, what you think is a destination is just a pit stop.”

I’m looking forward to the next episodes changing my mind.

Till then!

3 Comments

  • bmore says:

    still trying to figure out if I like this thing or not. But, I like our 29 year old story. There are at least some honest conversations, honest feelings being expressed, and passion with those 2. The little kids, I find annoying and just filler. 19 year old is acting like he’s 12. He’s annoying too…but cute! and 39 year old is a loser big time and needs to make a life! Don’t like his ex either. You are so right. That relationship had equal parts of blame. Still gonna stick with it…see where it’s going.

  • aoi says:

    It’s classic kdrama-the playboy who ‘changes’ because of the one girl he cannot have- but I can’t get enough of Seyoung-Jingoo.. He’s spent enough of time making sad puppy eyes and taking the bus to the wrong neighbourhood to win me over. Besides his playboy personality only reappears when he’s with Seyoung.

    I’d wish the heroine would totally pull the carpet from 19s feet instead of the mild elevator thing she’s planned.,

  • Emma says:

    Ah people don’t get over people that easily even if they do something shitty. It’s rare to feel that spark of liking someone so it’s hard to let go of it even when they do something you don’t like. You can tell Seyoung is being really practical though by denying her feelings bc she knows she shouldn’t like him because of what JinGoo did. I think two years is plenty of time for JG to feel genuine remorse and they’ve gotten past it to cultivate a really good friendship in that time.

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